Tiny Bits of Personal Advices To Help You Get Through Life

Tiny Bits of Personal Advices To Help You Get Through Life

Hey there, this blog post has all the essential information to navigate through your adult life.

Documents / Administration: 

  • Insurance such as Car insurance, Health insurance, Dental insurance, Homeowner pet, etc.
  • Figure your finances out. Learn basics; Credit cards for 101k savings, RRSP, etc. 
  • Medical appointments.
  • A plan for debt, there is good debt and there is bad debt but a debt is debt. nevertheless.  Plan to get out even if it's a baby step.
  • Taxes - check on your taxes, make sure everything is correct and keep on top of it. 
  • Have an income - even if it's a cashier job - it's still an income. 
  • Never underestimate a step forward. 
  • Check your document expirees- passport, licenses, credit cards etc.
  • Put all important documents split into specific locations specifically: passports, licenses, social security, birth certificate, marriage license, tax returns, registration, finance records.
  • Suggest putting Security surveillance cameras in two different places, in case of a robbery or some unseen event. 
  • Go make copes of all those documents and put these physical copies in a third location.
  • Appoint someone you trust with your passwords.
  • If your computer has a lock, give a physical copy in case something happens to you, so they have access to these types of information. 
  • If there is something very important to tell someone before you pass away, write it down and put it aside just in case.

Immediate Rules:

  • Keep places and items clean. 
  • Make a healthy lifestyle, especially eating. 
  • Enforce sleeping rules - if you are having sleeping issues, investigate first.

Healthy Lifestyle:

  • Floss. Nothing makes you feel like you have your life as put together, then flossing. 
  • You can buy stick applicators that are way better.
  • If you're doing that, you may as well get mouthwash. 
  • If you're flossing and doing mouthwash, may as well wear your retainer. 
  • Make your bed everyday.
  • Buy a tool to measure your personal activity, like an app, fitness watch etc. - wear it constantly.
  • For those sleep deprived: blackout curtains, earplugs, satin pillows, weighted blankets, stuffed animals, white noise, ASMR, no technology 1 hour before bed, reading before bed or natural supplements can help a lot.
  • If you're getting tired after you're eating: this is often a symptom of a food allergy, food insensitivity or overindulgence.
  • Make a skincare routine. 
  • Buy new socks and underwear.
  • Put a counselor/psychologist on your yearly checkup list.

Career/ Income/Growth:

  • Have an income.
  • Make huge goal within reasonable limits - a huge goal does not mean being a CEO - it's what meaningful to you.
  • Make smaller goals to get there.
  • Make smaller goals for you to personally enjoy.
  • Write down the things that would impress you, if you achieved.
  • Pin it physically to a board.
  • Get a whiteboard/corkboard or something you can physically see items written down every day.
  • As mentioned above, make a plan for your income. 
  • Even if it's 1$ saved a week, that's still 365$

Emotional / Mental Wellbeing:

  • Get your phone out and put your loved ones' birthdays in your calendars.
  • Add important events.
  • Add in your phone a once a month reminder to check in with loved ones to see how they're doing. 
  • In that calendar, make a note if one of your friends is going through a hard time, set a reminder to check in on them. 
  • Figure out what you want in life, especially dating. 
  • If you don't figure out what you want, you make yourself vulnerable to being used or being misguided.
  • Identify your achilleas heel.
  • What are you bad at? Just keep this in mind for later development.

Overnight Changes:

  • Donate the pieces in your wardrobe that aren't you anymore.
  • Start getting pieces that are.
  • Think about where those are also from; consider secondhand.
  • Start reading, get a bookshelf and begin to fill it things you love.
  • Do what you want with your appearance as long as it's in alignment with your goals/vision of yourself. 
  • Volunteer even if it's just 3-4 hours a week.
  • Retirement homes and aging populations, are some of the most valuable connections you can have.
  • Go to the gym, watch what you eat, do all the advice prescribes.
  • Go out of your way to teach someone something, even if it's just a tutorial.
  • This will help you grow confidence in your own knowledge, sharpen communication and help connect to others.

Checkbox lists that will start to change your day:

  • The 15 things you are afraid of on the list.
  • Great, now go do most of them.
  • The 3 things you should have done but ignored, instead.
  • Great, now go do them.
  • The 3 things you want to do this year but haven't got around to.

Not A Checkbox: 

  • the last 4 years of bad decisions you made and besides them, why you made it.
  • Sit with that uncomfortable feeling for a while and accept responsibility.
  • If you do not learn, the universe will try to teach you again.
  • When you're done with those lists, print out a monthly calendar and jot down some important things you need to do.
  • After you do that for a while, make a weekly to-do list, eventually, a daily one should result. 
  • Checkboxes are your friend and give you dopamine.
  • Things I had to learn the hard way that I hope you'll avoid, making this world a better place.
  • Always attend the wake and/or funeral.
  • People die once.
  • Stop being selfish and think of others.
  • You will never regret going.
  • Give more than you take.
  • When you fail to make a decision, the rest will make it for you. It may be the wrong one, still. 
  • When you're too indecisive and finally make a decision last minute, the weight of that decision often come back to you, like a slap in the face.
  • It's okay to be wrong and make mistakes.
  • Hold yourself to a high standard and if no one is telling you that you can do better, I am.

Common bad habits:

  • Unplug preferably from social media.
  • If not, limit to 30 minutes.
  • Quit ideally daydreaming, more so when you have other things do or work towards. 
  • Stop applying all your time to something that has little feedback like videogames - Consider adding another hobby.
  • Stop staying up late at night - specially if it makes you feel groggy later.
  • Quit feeling sorry for yourself and if you can't stop, go listen to someone else for a while. 
  • Failing to think/check-in/consider other people on a frequent basis.
  • Running away from your problems through traveling, Instagram, Netflix, drugs, booze, dating etc. Stop turning your brain off all the time.
  • You have good ideas up there.
  • Monitor your recreation.
  • Being bad with finances.
  • Comparing yourself to others.

Small things that will pay off:

  • Go learn basic history - especially go learn the basic history of the last 75 years. 
  • Have a basic knowledge of finances, housekeeping, driving, changing tires, etc.
  • Have a basic knowledge of common mental illnesses such as depression, anxiety, bipolar, narcissism, etc.
  • Ask your parents things you wanted to know; record a message from them, even if it's something small. 


Pritam Chakraborty

As I was moving through life, I occasionally saw brief glimpses of beauty.

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